5 ways to build a child’s self-esteem
“A child’s life is like a piece of paper on which every passer-by leaves a mark.”
Chinese proverb
A child’s self-esteem can have a profound impact on his or her future choices and opportunities in life. Parents, teachers, other adults, and siblings can play a vital role in helping children develop the values and character that contribute to a productive future.
Let’s look at 5 ways you can build self-esteem and confidence in a child.
- Be empathetic. Encourage the child to share his feelings. Respond with empathy; a child’s feelings matter, even if the circumstances may seem trivial to an adult.
- Show genuine interest. Listen to and talk with the child about things that are important to her.
- Create solutions together. Brainstorm with the child, thinking about ways to handle situations or problems he faces, such as unkind remarks or stares from classmates.
- Remember past accomplishments. Remind the child of past successes, and talk about what he does well. Express firm belief in his ability to do well.
- Help the child think of likely consequences of different choices she faces. Try to avoid lecturing; in most situations a child learns more when the adult poses questions that help guide the child’s thought process.
Most importantly, let the child know you value him or her as a person. The time and energy you invest in building children’s confidence will help them grow to be healthy, principled, caring adolescents and adults. And that’s good for the entire community!